The reason why I am going to touch upon this subject is because it is our ego that causes us so much destruction and turmoil in our lives. I found that freedom is given away piece-by-piece simply because many listen to the ego. If they were able to control this animal, their lives would be enriched to a much greater degree.
Wealth
Everybody needs to decide for themselves what it means to be wealthy. For many, it means having all the nice cars, houses, and art collections. This is something that is wonderful to attain if one is able to keep it in the proper perspective. Sadly, most do not. Instead, they allow these items to own them. The possessions become the most important thing. This is the ego at work but few realize it.
To me, wealth equates to freedom. That is how I imagine it in my mind. Therefore, one who is not free is not considered wealthy by me. Sure that person might have a lot of money or things but the truth is that most are working their pants off to maintain it. People of this ilk are often over stressed, leveraged, and walking the fine line of economic collapse. They spend long hours trying to maintain their standards only to realize at the end they cannot take it with them. Few spend time in their dying days wishing they spent more time at the office working. Regret is commonplace among these people.
Wayne Dyer writes in many of his books about detachment. Now, I am not going to get metaphysical with you because personally I find it a waste of time. My preference is for the basics of the here and now. Regardless of that outlook, My. Dyer brings up some valid points. The essence of life is not wrapped up in things, achievement, or 'stuff'. Certainly those things are all nice. However, it is when one allows the ego takes over that those ends start taking control. And, the danger lies in the fact that enough is never enough for the ego. More is the mantra of this motivator. No matter what is achieved, the ego needs to be fed a larger quantity. Happiness can never result. This leads to an unsatisfied life.
That is why I believe a wealthy person is one who attained freedom in his or her life. This is a concept that holds true without regard to the amount of money attained. It is vital to point out that this is not proclaiming that poverty is the means to this end either. Hear me clearly when I state there is nothing wrong with material things or assets as long as they are held in their proper perspective. And, the only way to do this is to remove the ego from the situation as much as possible.
Self Esteem
A healthy self esteem is one of the major components of living a free life. When you consider the things the ego makes us do, you quickly realize that is the path to slavery. Consider all the creditors the average person is responsible for paying. How many of those purchases are made by the ego? Do you think a person with a healthy self worth needs a 'McMansion' that he or she cannot afford? Does a person of this nature buy an expensive foreign sports car amassing a large monthly payment for the next 60 months? The answer is NO. Someone who is healthy in this manner makes smart decisions based upon economic reality.
Personally, I could care what my neighbors think. My life is not lived according to their viewpoints. Recently, I realized that many of the people in my neighborhood purchased new vehicles. Now, I am a realist which leads me to believe these people did not pay cash for these automobiles. Instead, the finance these purchases. This is exchanging their time for a new asset. Sadly, it is one that will not appreciate. New vehicles depreciate the minute they are driven off the lot (that means goes down in value). Therefore, these people have years of payments for something that is going down in worth every month. Their car will be used long before the payments are completed.
This brings up the question, did these people need to purchase these cars? In my estimation they did not. From what I could see, they had vehicles that worked. In fact, some of the ones they got rid of are newer than the cars I have. Thus I surmise that ego was a factor in these purchasing decisions. Since I am not concerned with what others think, I am quite content to drive around in my automobiles that total 23 years of age between the two.
Please bear in mind the ego will use every tactic to take control. If you asked my neighbors if ego was the factor in making the decisions, they would deny it. They would state a host of other reasons for purchase like the reliability of a new vehicle (warranty), the deal they got, or the fact that their older car needed work. Whatever the reasoning, it never can justify the freedom sacrificed. Simply put, if it weren't for the ego, these purchases most likely would have not been made. But, few ever think of freedom until it is too late.
Therefore, I believe it most important for us to realize that our ego is a powerful mechanism that will only create misery and pain. The solution to this outcome is to continually work on our self esteem. The truth is that what you drive is not a reflection on you in any manner. Madison Avenue would like to make you believe that it is but that is incorrect. The qualities that reside within you are not contingent upon what you wear, the brand of show you wear, or any other material object. If you are a worthy person, it is because of the qualities you exhibit in your daily life. There are a lot of jackasses living in wealthy neighborhoods. At the same time, some of the best people are routinely overlooked because they don't exhibit the material wealth. Instead, they are people who are comfortable with themselves. They understand that things do not make them better people.
Understand this concept and begin to make purchasing decisions accordingly.
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